Showing posts with label divorce. Show all posts
Showing posts with label divorce. Show all posts

Thursday, 27 June 2013

That's an Expensive Headache: Wife Receives Damages for Husband's Indifference

The Guardian has reported on the curious case of the French wife who sued for divorce based on, I assume, a violation of the duties of marriage under Article 242 of the French Civil Code. What makes the case interesting is the judge's decision to fine the husband 10,000 euros to compensate the wife for the particular violation complained of, namely "lack of sex over 21 years of marriage."

Under the antique English common law, marriage came with an abundance of rights and duties. The husband had the duty to provide his wife with the necessities of life and had the right to her domestic services, the right to her property and income, and the right to have her live with him and have sex with her as he wished, called consortium. It seems that the French civil code developed in a similar manner. Title V concerns the law on marriage, including the obligations marriage gives rise to (Chapter V) and the rights and and duties of spouses (Chapter VI), and Title VI concerns the law on divorce.

In this case the husband was sued for breach of Article 215 (Title V, Chapter VI), which provides that:
"Spouses mutually oblige themselves to a community of living."
The judge held that sexual relations are a part of a "community of living," and the Guardian quotes the judge as saying that:
"A sexual relationship between husband and wife is the expression of affection they have for each other, and in this case it was absent. By getting married, couples agree to sharing their life and this clearly implies they will have sex with each other."
Interestingly, from the size of the award, one can deduce that the going rate for sex in marriage is about 1.3 euros a day or about $1.80 Canadian at today's rate.

Monday, 24 June 2013

Damned if You Do, Damned if You Don't

The BBC and Los Angeles Times are reporting on a new study showing that both marriage and divorce increases the chance of weight gain. Not necessarily a tragedy, depending on your perspective on the issue and aesthetic preferences, but interesting nonetheless.



The 22-year-long study showed that people who marry get plumper faster than those who don't, and that the likelihood of weight gain increases again on divorce. According to the study, marriage increased the chance of weight gain in women by 33 to 48%, while divorcing women had a 22% chance of weight gain. For men, 28% were more likely to gain weight after marriage and 21% were more likely after divorce.

Tuesday, 18 June 2013

Malta Votes to Legalize Divorce

The Times of Malta has reported the results of a national referendum on the issue of divorce. With 72% voter turn out in this staunchly Catholic country, the pro-divorce Divorce Movement (slogan: "Give Love a Second Chance") has prevailed over the Nationalist Party government (slogan: "Jesus Yes, Divorce No") with 52% of the popular vote. Prime Minister Gonzi has said that the results would be respected and government will introduce legislation to enable divorce.

Malta is the last European nation to legalize divorce. Yay, Malta! You can find a bit of information on the origins of the Commonwealth laws on divorce in my post "Polygamy: The Legal Background."

Sunday, 16 June 2013

The Revenge of Facebook, Part III

CBC has reported on a survey of American divorce lawyers which found that Facebook ("Facebook helps you connect and share with the people in your life") had been cited in 1 in 5 US divorce cases and that the number of people using social media to conduct affairs seems to be on the rise.

In a dramatic but slightly bizarre press release titled "Don't Let Your Marriage be Among the 1 in 5 Destroyed by Facebook" issued by Loyola University commenting on the survey, clinical psychologist Steven Kimmons is quoted as saying that "improper use" of Facebook can "quickly devolve into marital disaster." The press release then offers some "safeguards" that must be intended for people with exceptionally poor impulse control:
  1. Look at how you use social media to see whether you talk to more men or more women and whether there is a certain type of person you prefer chatting with. "That can tell you something about how you’re using social networks. You may not even be aware that you’re heading down a road that can quickly get pretty dangerous."
  2. Set limits from the get go. "Spell out from the beginning with your online contacts what your expectations are of social networking relationships."
  3. Don't get naughty with your online friends. "It’s a good idea to not engage in intimate conversation with someone who is not your spouse." Duh.
  4. Share passwords with your spouse and "place the computer in a common area in the house or apartment." Like you would with an irresponsible teenager.
Hey, I'm on Facebook; drop me a line.

Thursday, 13 June 2013

Polygamy: The Legal Background

As you probably know, there's a hearing underway to determine whether the Criminal Code provisions criminalizing polygamy are consistent with the Charter of Rights and Freedoms. If so, we may well see prosecutions brought against some of the fine folks of Bountiful, British Columbia. There's a fascinating legal background to the hearing that the media really isn't covering, I suspect because it's probably only interesting to law nerds like myself.

A Recent History of the Common Law on Domestic Relations

Once upon a time, in Europe following the collapse of the Roman Empire to be specific, marriage was an important private economic institution and largely functioned free of control by the church or state. Marriage, and the financial and familial obligations it entailed, was the basic socioeconomic unit of feudal Europe. Upon marriage, a man and a woman were considered to be a single legal unit under the control of the husband: all of the wife's property passed into her husband's control, wives lost the power to conduct business in their own names, a wife lost the right to retain the wages paid for her labour, and husbands became able sue on behalf of their wives ...and solely liable for suits brought against them. In return, she was entitled to be provided with the necessities of life, although the quality and sufficiency of those necessities lay at her husband's discretion.

As with other social institutions, I suspect that the relative importance of marriage can be gauged by the depth and richness of the common law principles which evolved to regulate it. The common law relating to marriage is indeed quite rich and deep, and depicts marriage on the one hand as a quasi-commercial enterprise governed by the law of contracts and on the other as bedrock upon which stood one's reputation and standing in the community.

One could sue, for example, for breach of promise to marry, jactitation of marriage, criminal conversation, harbouring a spouse, and a miscellany of other matrimonial torts. Breach of promise to marry was based on the law of contracts. Jactitation of marriage concerned the false boasting of married status, thereby decreasing the marketability of the person alleged to be married to the boaster. Criminal conversation and harbouring a spouse had to do with the luring of a spouse away from a marriage thus depriving the other spouse of the benefits of the marriage contract, his "conjugal right" to his wife's services and company.

Marriages were entered into by oral agreement and did not require religious solemnization. The role of the church largely lay in determining who might marry, the circumstances in which marriages might be dissolved and addressing other largely social questions.

The law on marriage was thus governed by two masters, the ecclesiastic law on entering and exiting a marriage and the civil common law on the rights and obligations flowing from marriage. This changed dramatically in the early sixteenth century, following the Protestant Reformation in Europe and the Henrician Reformation in England, when government took upon itself the right to manage marriage and divorce. Unfortunately, one major element of Catholic dogma which survived the reformations was idea that marriages were indissoluble, as a result of which getting a divorce in England required the passage of a private act of Parliament!

The Legislation on Marriage and Divorce

The first Parliamentary law on marriage was passed in 1753, in the form of Lord Hardwicke’s Act for the Better Preventing of Clandestine Marriages, to address the unfortunate habit the youth of England and Wales had developed of marrying in Scotland where a costly marriage licence was not required. Prior to this, oral marriage contracts, marriages per verba de praesenti, created a binding marriage; now, the parties had to marry in a church (with exceptions for Jews and Quakers), with the publication of banns and a state-issued marriage licence.

The first Commonwealth law on divorce was England's 1857 Divorce and Matrimonial Causes Act, which allowed people to be divorced by court order and stripped what little jurisdiction remained to the church, and revoked many of the older matrimonial torts:
"As soon as this Act shall come into operation, all Jurisdiction now exercisable by any Ecclesiastical Court in England in respect of Divorces à Mensâ et Thoro, Suits of Nullity of Marriage, Suits of Jactitation of Marriage, Suits for Restitution of Conjugal Rights, and in all Causes, Suits, and Matters Matrimonial, shall cease to be so exercisable, except so far as relates to the granting of Marriage Licences, which may be granted as if this Act had not been passed."
(If you were curious, and I know you are, a divorce à mensâ et thoro terminated the spouses' obligation to live together and the husband's obligation to provide the wife with the necessities of life without actually giving the parties a divorce; this is the origin of the much-misunderstood judicial separation. A divorce à vinculo matrimonii was required to actually terminate a marriage.)

The UK Divorce and Matrimonial Causes Act was absorbed by the Province of Canada (the pre-confederation political unit formed of Upper Canada and Lower Canada by the 1840 Act of Union) and by the Colonies of British Columbia and Vancouver as a result of the proclamation of Governor Sir James Douglas in 1858.

Marriage and Divorce at the Dawn of the 20th Century

Given the complexity of the common law on marriage and divorce, it's not terribly surprising that the legislation on these subjects would assume a similar quality, and by 1900 we had the federal and provincial Divorce and Matrimonial Causes Acts, the federal Offences in Relation to Marriage Act and the provincial Marriage Act. Marriage remained a tremendously important institution, one with profound social and economic consequences, and these laws sought to protect it.

Under the provincial Divorce Act of 1897, a husband could apply for a divorce on the basis of his wife's adultery. A wife, on the other hand, could apply for a divorce on the basis of her husband's incestuous adultery, rape, adultery coupled with cruelty, or adultery coupled with his abandonment of her for at least two years without reasonable excuse.

The provincial Marriage Act of 1867 allowed religious officials and government-appointed registrars to marry "any two persons" not under a legal disability to contract the marriage, providing that persons under the age of 21 had the consent of their father to the marriage. The act made it a crime to make a false statement to procure a marriage or to perform a marriage between persons not qualified to marry.

The federal Offences in Relation to Marriage Act of 1886 made it a crime to:
  1. pretend to solemnize a marriage;
  2. procure someone to solemnize a marriage who was not authorized to do so;
  3. procure a feigned marriage; or,
  4. marry someone while being married to someone else, in other words, to enter into a bigamous marriage.
About the same time, similar provisions were being introduced to the criminal law in Canada.

Bigamy, Polygamy and the Criminal Code

Sections 290 to 293 of the federal Criminal Code are titled "Offences Against Conjugal Rights." Section 290 says that every married person who goes through "a form of marriage" with another person and every person who goes through "a form of marriage" with a married person has committed bigamy, punishable under section 291 with jail for up to five years. Section 293 says that people who practice polygamy or "any kind of conjugal union with more than one person at the same time" has committed an offence.

It's a bit difficult to tell these sections apart. Bigamy and polygamy are rooted in the Greek word gamos, meaning marriage. The prefix "bi" means two, and the prefix "poly" means many; accordingly, the dictionary definition of bigamy is being married to two people, and the definition of polygamy is being married to many people. (Polyandry means having many husbands and polygyny means having many wives.) Bigamy is the traditional criminal offence, however, having been made a felony punishable by death by the first Parliament of James I in 1604, and continued in the 1861 Offences Against the Person Act with less severe consequences.

The historical intention seems to have been preserved in the Criminal Code. Section 290 clearly focuses on marriage as the problem created by bigamy; the offence lies in marrying someone knowing him or her to be married, or a married person marrying again while aware that his or her previous marriage subsists. Section 290(2) excuses the bigamous conduct if the married party genuinely believes his or her spouse to be dead.

Section 293 on the other hand, seems aimed at criminalizing polyamorous conduct; the offence of polygamy lies in the parties' agreement to live together in a marriage-like relationship, although, to be clear, a form of marriage ceremony isn't strictly required. This seems to be the core of the problem the Crown is targeting in the present hearing, and the resulting question of whether the criminalization of this sort of conduct is consistent with the Charter guarantee of freedom of religion.

In the legal climate prevailing in 1604 and 1861, the criminalization of bigamy made sense. Bigamous marriages could have disastrous social and economic consequences for the innocent party, and the criminal law fit neatly with the common law principles that had accumulated in respect of the rights and obligations marriage entailed. The criminalization of polygamy, assuming that issues about marriage aren't really the problem the law was intended to address, is about the legislation of morality and the enforcement of conformity. In the nineteenth century, I'm sure this made sense; today I'm not so sure.

Wednesday, 12 June 2013

The Ins and Outs of Separation... Part III:The Whens

Important Update: The Family Law Act was introduced on 14 November 2011 and contains a number of provisions which are critical to the comments made in this post. See my post "Family Law Act Introduced!" for more information.

Although a lot of people get hung up identifying the date of separation, getting the date precisely right is only critical in one specific situation: when spousal support is an issue for unmarried spouses. I'll discuss the date of separation in relation to married spouses first and then get to this issue involving unmarried spouses.

Divorce and the Date of Separation

Under the Divorce Act, there is only one ground for divorce: breakdown of the marriage. There are three reasons why marriage breakdown may have occurred: separation for a period of not less than one year, adultery or cruelty.

Most divorces are based on the spouses' separation. To calculate the required one year period you have to know when you separated, and the court forms used to claim a divorce, the Notice of Family Claim (Form F3) and the Counterclaim (Form F5), will ask you to state the date of separation. Under s. 8(2)(a) of the Divorce Act, the date of separation is the date when the spouses began to "live separate and apart."

Separation

I've written about how separation happens in previous posts. Here's a quick recap.
  • The spouses don't have to agree to separate. All it takes is one spouse recognizing that the marriage is at an end and saying so.
  • Merely living apart doesn't mean a couple have separated for the purposes of divorce. There must be a belief that the marriage is at an end.
  • On the other hand, it isn't necessary for a couple to actually live apart; many separated couples continue to live under the same roof.
As a result, I think it's safe to say that the formal "date of separation" is the date on which a spouse forms the conclusion that the marriage is at an end and takes steps to terminate the marriage-like quality of the relationship. To avoid arguments about the date of separation, it's best if there is some sort of objective marker of separation, such as (a) a communication of the spouse's conclusion that the marriage is over, or (b) a spouse moving out.

Disputing the Date of Separation

Spouses rarely wind up arguing about the exact date of separation because in the vast majority of cases it's not very important. You don't need to be separated for one year before beginning the law suit claiming the divorce; most people have been separated for far more than a year when the court is finally asked to make a divorce order.

If the exact date of separation is argued, it's probably as a defence to the underlying divorce claim, to say, for example, that the spouses have not be living separate and apart for one year when the court is asked for the divorce order or that the spouses were not living separate and apart at the commencement of the law suit claiming the divorce. Arguments like these really only wind up postponing the inevitable and won't be effective to permanently block the divorce order.

If the exact date of separation is not argued, the date set out in the Notice of Family Claim or Counterclaim will do. The court rarely undertakes its own enquiry into the factual accuracy of the claimed date of separation.

Unmarried Spouses and Spousal Support

The Family Relations Act, at s. 1, says that a "spouse" includes someone who is married as well as someone who:
"... lived with another person in a marriage-like relationship for a period of at least two years if the application under this Act is made within one year after they ceased to leave together ..."
This is important because it defines how unmarried couples can qualify as common-law spouses (living together in marriage-like relationship for at least two years) and it says when a person loses the right to apply for an order based on the spousal relationship (one year after the date of separation). To be clear, this definition really only affects a common-law spouse's ability to apply for spousal support and a small number of personal protection orders, because orders about children rest on the definition of "parent", which has a different test, and because common-law couples cannot apply for orders about the division of assets under the act.

When a common-law spouse has a claim for spousal support, the date of separation is very important, more important than it is for married spouses: if the claim for spousal support is not made within one year from separation it cannot be made at all.

The date of separation for unmarried spouses is determined as it is for married spouses. When did one or both spouses reach the conclusion that the relationship was over? If just one spouse made this decision, when was the decision communicated? When did the marriage-like quality of the relationship end?

Monday, 10 June 2013

Vanier Institute Issues Report on Canadian Families

The Ottawa-based Vanier Institute has published a study on Canadian families based on the 2006 census. According to the CBC article on the study:
  • 40% of marriages now end in divorce
  • one in ten people live in an unmarried, common-law relationship
  • 16.5% of same-sex couples marry
I'm sure there's more to the Institute's 211-page study than the CBA has reported; read the summary to learn more. You can also visit the website of Statistics Canada and get your data right from the horse's mouth.

Sunday, 9 June 2013

The Ins and Outs of Separation... Part II:Sex and New Relationships

Questions about sex and new relationships following separation are very, very common... Is it adultery to have sex with someone else after separation? If you're living with someone new, can you be in a common-law relationship before you've divorced? Is it okay to have sex with the spouse you've separated from? Thankfully the answers are pretty simple.

Sex with spouses

Yes, it's okay to have sex with your spouse after you've separated. It happens all the time. There are three things to be aware of.

First, from a legal point of view, s. 8(3)(b)(ii) of the Divorce Act says that married spouses can live together "with reconciliation as its primary purpose" for up to a total of ninety days following separation without stopping the clock on the one-year period of separation that has to pass to get a divorce. (Once more than ninety days have passed, the one-year period starts to run from the last separation.) Honestly, though, I don't see this as much of a problem. Spending the night with your spouse isn't going to count toward the ninety days unless you spent the night for the "primary purpose" of reconciliation rather than sex, which I rather doubt.

Second, if the legal ground for your divorce is based on your spouse's adultery or your spouse's cruelty toward you, you need to know that you may have been considered to have forgiven or "condoned" your spouse's misconduct if you have sex with your spouse after separation. Under s. 11(2) of the Divorce Act, an act of adultery or cruelty that has been condoned cannot be used as a ground for divorce.

(There aren't any legal problems with unmarried spouses or partners having sex after separation since a divorce isn't necessary to end unmarried relationships.)

Third, from an emotional point of view, you might want to think about what having sex with your spouse will do to the progress you've been making in getting over that relationship and building a life for yourself that doesn't include him or her. Lots of people are able to handle the messiness of sex with a separated spouse; other people find it to be emotionally difficult.

Sex with other people

As long as you're married, having sex with someone who isn't your spouse counts as adultery. If you're separated at the time however, no one except your in-laws or the Pope is going to care.

I suppose it's true that your spouse could claim adultery as the ground for your divorce, but if you've already separated from your spouse, your marriage would seem to have already come to an end for an entirely different reason than your adultery. Apart from this one issue about the legal ground for your divorce, having sex with someone else isn't going to have an impact on how your divorce is handled. It isn't relevant to whether spousal support is payable or not, how much child support will be paid, how property will be divided or what the parenting arrangements are going to look like.

(There's no such thing as adultery for unmarried couples, since you have to be married in order for sex with someone other than your partner to count as adultery.)

New relationships

As I often tell my clients, there's nothing a separated married person can't do that a single person can, except to get married. Apart from that, a separated married person can see other people, date other people, have children with other people and live with other people.

What's interesting about all of this is that there's nothing stopping a person who's married to someone qualifying as someone else's common-law spouse. Under the Family Relations Act, "spouse" includes, in addition to people who have been married, people who have lived together in a "marriage-like relationship" for at least two years. In other words, if it's taking awhile to get your divorce and you've moved in with someone else, you could have two legal spouses: the person you're still married to and the person you've been living with. Surprise!

I talk about the legal consequences of having two spouses in the Marriage & Divorce > Separation chapter of my website.

Future posts

Separation is a broad subject. If there's something you'd like me to discuss, please say so in a comment to this post. Click on the "separation" label below to read other posts about separation.

Saturday, 8 June 2013

Bored of the Rings

The BBC has just run an amusing article titled "What divorced readers did with their wedding rings," following up on their previous article "When does the wedding ring come off?" Suggestions include: throwing into random field; throwing into sea; and, dropping through sewer grate.